Dear Juno, First, let me start by saying that after watching your journey of caring your pregnancy to term, given your age, your circumstances, and considering all possible options including exercising your legal right to privacy and having choice over your own body, I just would like to say that I believe the decision you made in the end was ultimately the right decision for you personally. I don’t believe you should have handled that situation any differently from how you did. I believe in the idea that everything happens for a reason. Not necessarily in the sense that we all belong in this plan that God has created for each and every one of us and that is how everything becomes to be for a reason, but more so in the sense that certain situations arise for us to face in order to shape us into better versions of ourselves by achieving that goal of overcoming adversity of any situation. I believe that a certain occasion came your way in order to shape you into the better version of yourself, allowing you to grow as an adult, becoming capable of making decisions for yourself that require a level of maturity far beyond your years. Though it came in the form of producing a baby, I believe that was the challenge in your life that you were meant to overcome. Some believe that you were so young– which you were, and highly irresponsible– which you kinda were, but everyone makes mistakes and messes up from time to time. It doesn’t matter whether we’re flawed, what matters is how we choose to fix our flaws. I believe that any women who were to find themselves in your exact same position of an accidental pregnancy should have all rights to handle it any way they want. It is important for women to live by the 14th Amendment, let alone abiding to the rules behind Roe vs. Wade because women should have the legal right to either terminate or continue their pregnancy if they choose to do so. Everyone is different. Everyone has a different background or living environment. Some women, like yourself, who get pregnant at young age typically have 3 options: 1. abortion 2. Keeping the baby 3. Caring the baby term and then adoption. All three of these solutions are valid solutions in which I don’t disagree with, nor frown upon. I wouldn’t of frowned upon you if you had chosen to gotten an abortion. I know it was a decision in which you considered but then ruled out, and that’s ok! Like I said, we’re all different and have different beliefs in things. But could have getting an abortion have been the better option for you? Who knows. It could be the best option for those who are like you. In your case you got it lucky by having the strong support system that your friends and family provided you with. It is common for teenage mothers to get kicked out of their homes with nothing, essentially shunned from their family for the mistake they made. Some people can’t go through with their pregnancy because of that reason, or merely because they can’t face the judgement that is unfortuantely natural for teenage mothers to receive. Or even for people who are pregnant but not as a teen still turn to abortion because simply the timing is wrong, they’re not ready or fit to be a mother, etc. Abortion can seem like the smartest option to some in that case, or completely the opposite to others. And that is ok too. For those who are against abortion have a right to if they choose. Those people have the right to either keep their baby or give it up for adoption because they know that is the best decision for them considering their believes. I believe you would have turned out ok if you had chosen to keep the baby too. I believe that the baby would’ve grown up healthy and happy. I believe deep down you must’ve considered that option but knew you should put your baby’s, as well as your best interest at mind, which lead you to choose adoption. What you did was good, it was a mature decision to make which many teenage mothers also find themselves doing because they know that that is what’s best for them and their child. Adoption in my eyes is a very respectable option that all women should have. It not only allows someone the option to a matured future if they believe they’re incapable to raising a child at the time, but it also grants another set of individuals that gift of family. Adoption should not be frowned upon or interrupted as a form of abandonment. Neither of these three options should be frowned upon or interrupted as anything more than a choice the mother has the right to make. To end things I would like to say that if you had chosen differently, I believe you would have been ok. I would have respected your decision as I respect your final decision now. I believe all should respect the decision women have the right to make in regaurds to their body, whether it be pro choice or not.
First, let me start by saying that after watching your journey of caring your pregnancy to term, given your age, your circumstances, and considering all possible options including exercising your legal right to privacy and having choice over your own body, I just would like to say that I believe the decision you made in the end was ultimately the right decision for you personally. I don’t believe you should have handled that situation any differently from how you did. I believe in the idea that everything happens for a reason. Not necessarily in the sense that we all belong in this plan that God has created for each and every one of us and that is how everything becomes to be for a reason, but more so in the sense that certain situations arise for us to face in order to shape us into better versions of ourselves by achieving that goal of overcoming adversity of any situation. I believe that a certain occasion came your way in order to shape you into the better version of yourself, allowing you to grow as an adult, becoming capable of making decisions for yourself that require a level of maturity far beyond your years. Though it came in the form of producing a baby, I believe that was the challenge in your life that you were meant to overcome. Some believe that you were so young– which you were, and highly irresponsible– which you kinda were, but everyone makes mistakes and messes up from time to time. It doesn’t matter whether we’re flawed, what matters is how we choose to fix our flaws. I believe that any women who were to find themselves in your exact same position of an accidental pregnancy should have all rights to handle it any way they want. It is important for women to live by the 14th Amendment, let alone abiding to the rules behind Roe vs. Wade because women should have the legal right to either terminate or continue their pregnancy if they choose to do so. Everyone is different. Everyone has a different background or living environment. Some women, like yourself, who get pregnant at young age typically have 3 options: 1. abortion 2. Keeping the baby 3. Caring the baby term and then adoption. All three of these solutions are valid solutions in which I don’t disagree with, nor frown upon. I wouldn’t of frowned upon you if you had chosen to gotten an abortion. I know it was a decision in which you considered but then ruled out, and that’s ok! Like I said, we’re all different and have different beliefs in things. But could have getting an abortion have been the better option for you? Who knows. It could be the best option for those who are like you. In your case you got it lucky by having the strong support system that your friends and family provided you with. It is common for teenage mothers to get kicked out of their homes with nothing, essentially shunned from their family for the mistake they made. Some people can’t go through with their pregnancy because of that reason, or merely because they can’t face the judgement that is unfortuantely natural for teenage mothers to receive. Or even for people who are pregnant but not as a teen still turn to abortion because simply the timing is wrong, they’re not ready or fit to be a mother, etc. Abortion can seem like the smartest option to some in that case, or completely the opposite to others. And that is ok too. For those who are against abortion have a right to if they choose. Those people have the right to either keep their baby or give it up for adoption because they know that is the best decision for them considering their believes. I believe you would have turned out ok if you had chosen to keep the baby too. I believe that the baby would’ve grown up healthy and happy. I believe deep down you must’ve considered that option but knew you should put your baby’s, as well as your best interest at mind, which lead you to choose adoption. What you did was good, it was a mature decision to make which many teenage mothers also find themselves doing because they know that that is what’s best for them and their child. Adoption in my eyes is a very respectable option that all women should have. It not only allows someone the option to a matured future if they believe they’re incapable to raising a child at the time, but it also grants another set of individuals that gift of family. Adoption should not be frowned upon or interrupted as a form of abandonment. Neither of these three options should be frowned upon or interrupted as anything more than a choice the mother has the right to make.
To end things I would like to say that if you had chosen differently, I believe you would have been ok. I would have respected your decision as I respect your final decision now. I believe all should respect the decision women have the right to make in regaurds to their body, whether it be pro choice or not.